It’s mid-season. The fog of tryouts and early practices has lifted. Coaches are starting to lock in their lines. Defensive pairings are becoming consistent. Special teams units are getting reps. And if you’re reading this, maybe you’re feeling stuck.
You’re not on the line you thought you’d be. You’re not getting the ice time you expected. You’re not playing with the chemistry you hoped for. And it’s messing with your head.
This is one of the hardest parts of the hockey season—not physically, but mentally. And how you respond right now can shape the rest of your year.
The first instinct when things don’t go your way is to fight it. You tell yourself it’s unfair. You replay every shift in your head. You wonder what you did wrong. But here’s the truth: resisting reality doesn’t change it—it just drains you.
Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up. It means acknowledging where you are so you can start building from it. You’re on the third line? Fine. Be the best third-line player in the league. You’re not on the power play? Dominate your 5-on-5 shifts.
When you stop resisting, you free up energy to focus on what matters: playing your game.
You can’t control the coach’s decisions. You can’t control who you’re paired with. But you can control your preparation, your effort, and your attitude.
These things build trust. They build consistency. And they build the kind of player coaches want to move up the lineup.
When you’re frustrated, it’s tempting to try to do too much. You want to stand out. You want to prove yourself. But that often leads to mistakes—turnovers, missed assignments, bad penalties.
Instead, simplify. Get back to your identity as a player.
Don’t chase the game—center yourself in it. Your best hockey comes when you’re confident and composed, not when you’re trying to be someone you’re not.
Hockey is a team sport, but the mental grind can feel incredibly isolating. You don’t want to seem like you’re complaining. You don’t want to look weak. But bottling it up only makes it worse.
Find someone you trust—a teammate, a coach, a parent, a mentor—and talk it out. Not to vent, but to process. Sometimes just saying “I’m struggling with my role right now” can lift a huge weight off your shoulders.
And who knows? That conversation might lead to clarity, encouragement, or even a shift in perspective.
Here’s the thing about hockey: nothing is permanent.
Players get injured. Lines get shuffled. Slumps happen. Coaches make adjustments. And when that door opens, you want to be the one who’s ready to walk through it.
So stay sharp. Stay focused. Keep training. Keep competing. Because your moment is coming—and when it does, you’ll want to be firing on all cylinders.
Parents play a huge role in how young athletes handle adversity. When your child isn’t where they want to be in the lineup, your support can either help them refocus—or unintentionally add pressure.
Here’s how you can help:
Listen First: Before offering advice, just listen. Let them vent. Let them feel heard. Sometimes they don’t need a solution—they just need space to process.
Avoid Blame: Don’t blame coaches, teammates, or politics. That only fuels resentment and excuses. Instead, help your child focus on what they can control.
Reinforce Identity: Remind them of who they are as a player. What makes them special. What they’ve overcome before. Confidence starts at home.
Encourage Effort Over Outcome: Praise their work ethic, attitude, and resilience—not just goals or ice time. This builds long-term mental toughness.
Stay Positive, But Honest: Be encouraging, but don’t sugarcoat. Help them see the situation clearly and challenge them to respond with maturity and grit.
Support the Process: Whether it’s extra training, mental skills work, or just being there after a tough game—show them you’re in it with them, not just when things are going well.
Every player goes through this. Even the stars. Every season has this moment. What separates the good from the great is how they respond when things don’t go their way.
So if you’re not where you want to be right now, don’t panic. Don’t sulk. Don’t spiral.
Take a breath. Reset. And get back to playing your game.
Because the best version of you is still in there—and the season is far from over.